First There are a few question we must ask of the person who call him self Joey Gee. At the end you sign off as Family B.

The article on missing fathers leaves a lot to be said. Excellent in terms of the title but there is much left out.

We would like to know who you are,how old you are and what makes you qualified to speak on the subject?

There is so much about history and the time place and the years.
There are lots of reason you don't give for the absence of men;much has to do with economics,social environment and the interaction between the the men and woman.
You speak about Black(African American) men & Cabo Verde men the same problem is among white (European American),Latinos,or (Hispanic) etc.
It is especially true among poor folk in general. I say in General.
But you are speaking about Negro & Cabo Verde men.

You have said that the men prey on the woman well that is debatable.
They both prey on each other,Ping Pong back & forth. It is the motion and the notion of the ocean

Woman have the will and the way to also violate men under the guise of sophistication,or being weak;woman are far from being weak. Perhaps beguiling fits us better if we are to tell the truth. [Remember the woman said To the Lord God the serpent beguiled me]

While we can agree that a family that stays together makes for a much better family unit,but that is not always the case.

Many children have been raised by two parents who are very dysfunctional.. and that in it's self is a mulitude of sins,to say the least.

The other side of the coin the promiscuouse behavior by both men and woman. Why is that? It is not as simple as you paint it

Much has to do with the culture of immorality which both sex have lived by and under. The society of immodest conformity of immoral acts.

This behavior has been since time and memorial as a matter of fact Adam & Eve also were victims of such acts.

The real culprit in all of this is the disobedience of God and not living by the word of God.

In the old days the good elderly woman would say a woman who keeps her leggs crossed will never get with child unless she gets raped and that is another horse by a different color.
In my agency we have made a study that shows that woman are as much to blame in this life style of getting pregnant;putting your back to the matress or the floor or the back seat of the car and allowing to give your self before marriage is not the righteous choice,think about that.

Just so that they can get out from under the parents to collect a check from WIC and to have their own project apartment. And to be on your own,I'm a woman I can do my own thing now,I got my man. You think you got your man until he finds another sweet sister who has the same idea you had. I say the man is a man dog seeking who he may devour or as they like to tell another notch on my gun. No my sisters you must stop that kind of thinking. All that man dog wants is to get his whistle wet.
You get off on your own ,maybe if your lucky he might be around for a year then just like that he is gone,gone,gone.

Then some females do it again and again, have Babies by two or three other men some time they are not sure who the father is. Again much of this has to do with class.

No it is not because a man is missing at that tender age you should not have a man in your life. At that stage of the game the man should be missing. Keep your leggs closed and your mind open for higher education;so that when the righteous man comes along he won't be missing from your life after you are married. He won't be a man dog but a God man.

Many times if not most of the times people cohabitate for sex pleasure only just for the lust of it. And there are lots of other crazy reasons that is giving;like I just want his baby cause he is good looking but I don't really want him. Short term pleasure for long term pain?

Now men are also very guilty in this man dog behavior, but it takes two too tango.

There has been on many occasions that when the split came about,and the father paid child support,many times the woman would make it very difficult for the father to see the child,for many stupid reason even to not let the grandparents to see the child. Some don't pay any support,but they don't get away for long these days the man that is the court man he will find you.

Yes we do need to stop this insane crazy around the mullberry bush display of this faith-less manner of life. What did I say: (FAITH-LESS)

Interestingly most of this is done largely among the Christian ethics.
PROMISCUCUOUS IS IN THE CHURCH!
They talk about God but you better be sure it is not the Devil in the pulpit.

This is not the norm among Islamic woman because of the life style and the seperation between boys and girls from an early age.

Christian women with a few exceptions of some like the Seven Day Adventist,and very few others have a discipline & code with strict adherence.Not many of them fall to the cracks.
Roman Catholics and other Christians teach the young girls to
dress like a harlot, Victoria Secret from a very early age.
If we are going to talk about this subject which is a very touchy one no pun intended.

We must look at all the facts. HollyWood, TV, B.E.T., My Space, pornographic magazines showing off the body parts without any shame.
The western society teaches children at an early age to be like Madonna or a Bunny girl see through clothes,bikini and low cuts you know what i am saying.
Now he or She who be with out sin cast the first stone.
I am not casting any stone;just telling the truth the way it is.

Here is a powerful thought men keep there pencil in there pants?Not likely.

On the other side we do have contraception for both men and woman.

We the woman need to make better choices,that is to be chaperone to make sure of proper behavior. Stop shaking you no what all over the place and cover up.

Woman need to learn a very important lesson;it is not the men that get pregnant, and has to carry that heavy load for 9 months therefore knowing that you better say (NO) or be protected for allowing the entrance of a hard object into your soft cushion. Don't allow that man Dog to climb on you, over you, or behind you, or any other position unless you are married to him and are prepared to bear a child and both of you raise the child with love. And find you a righteous house of prayer
where God is teaching righteous discipline and how to be civilized that will be your salvation for your family.Be Prudent with your life boys and girls men and woman. Husbands and Wives.

Yes we can make mistakes it is human to err and divine to forgive.
Jesus was ask how many time should we forgive and I think he said 7 times 70 times some thing like that. So you see we have a reprieve if we turn our lives over to Jesus in reality of his teachings,there is grace and mercy with Jesus.

Master Degree in Health Education of the renewing of the mind.
55 years in the business of sexology. Proper early education with a sober mind with kindness & love in the spirit of Yashua (Emmanuel) with the righteousness of who is better known as Jesus.

Now lets Talk about men and woman as equal partners.

This does not solve the problem of the past,so let us begin anew for our future; but we must see the WHOLE picture and not be one sided.
We can change! Let us be transformed by the will of Deus.